The following are the responses I got for last week’s blog. I am sharing that with you without disclosing their names. 🙂
Try to look at each other’s answers and appreciate the difference in thought orientation / style of thinking of each. (Hint: None of the answers are wrong)
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Some situations where I would approach self defence differently are:
– Teaching different age groups. For example, when teaching young kids, you would use simple vocabulary and concepts that they can understand while maintaining their attention vs teaching adults
– Teaching to large groups vs small. For smaller groups, it would be easier to individualize the teaching of self defense to cater to different learning styles
– Showing friends about self defense –> Would explain in a more relaxed manner
– Performing in public –> need to cater to the interest of the crowd
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‘Self-Defense’ could mean a lot of things. You might need to defend your honor (saving face), or you might need to defend yourself against an actual physical threat. In real life, the former is much more common. The complexity arises from the consequences of your actions, or means, to get to your result, or ends. Your boss might be calling you out in front of a group of people, and to defend yourself, you explain how it was really your boss’ fault for things going wrong. This obviously could backfire.
In all types of confrontations, your best defense might be avoidance. Letting a thief with a knife get away with your wallet could be the best way to preserve your safety. On the other hand, hitting an aggressor hard enough for him the rethink you as a target, or even hard enough to neutralize him are methods of self-defense as well.
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Not sure if I understand your questions correctly. Sounds like this topic you already talked many times. Depend on your mindset and the environment situation, we will need to resolve the issues differently.
If this is what you are asking, then the answers can almost be any scenarios with conflict exists (physical or non-physical contact). E.g.
– In a meeting, even everyone are against your idea, you can’t knock out your clients. Similarly, when we have arguments with your wife or your son!
– In a street, you can’t knock out a drunk guy who bother you. Even a drug taker try to create trouble, the law won’t give you right to beat him up.
– In school, your schoolmate make joke on you but overdone,e.g. pull you to do some move you don’t like, you can’t lock him on the ground.
Actually, now a day, it is odd that we can beat up someone legally due to self-defence reason. Not much case we can approach ‘self defence’ as the traditional way!
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1. In front of young children and their parents to not scare people away from martial arts
2. The elderly because they are less likely to find themselves in the same self defence situations as younger adults
3. Speaking with military or law enforcement, self defence would be a different discussion than with civilians
4. Speaking with people such as monks, that try to find peace and harmony, as opposed to finding a way to injure or stop the attacker
5. Presenting self defence in public could appear like an actual attack is happening to outsiders
6. Presenting online can also offer up issues because there will be many people that disagree and nitpick on every word said
7. There’s a difference in how self defence is presented and received by both genders as well, so care should be taken to both groups
8. Self defence would also be different to cater to disabled or handicapped individuals
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| Defender response | Example | ||
| Attacker Mindset | Playful | Harmonize | Party situation, use moulding to get out of trouble |
| Assaultive | Punish | Party situation, use joint lock technique | |
| Serious bodily harm | Destroy | Get out and call police , if not possible then pacify attacker with what ever means is necessary | |
| Ensure bystander can act as your witness, the person on the ground is normally seen as the victim | |||
| Attacker Skill | low skill | Get away from situation verbally or physically,may need to use some moulding | |
| medium skill | Get away from the situation, verbally or physically, but need to have the right skill if no escape possible | ||
| high skill | Get away from the situation, verbally or physically, if noe escape possible shift your mindset to destroy , regardless of your skill level | ||
| AttackerTactic | one person | Get away from the situation, verbally or physically, be prepared to escalate your mindset | |
| > 1 person | Get away from the situation, verbally or physically, be prepared to get escalate your mindset | ||
| With weapon | Get away from situation, if not possible escalate mindset to punish or even destroy | ||
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(A few of you did not submit. Penalties will apply if you don’t complete this week’s blog.)
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Teaching children vs teaching adults. You don’t want to teach young children how to take hits or how to hit because they might not fully understand how or when to use such techniques.
Doing short workshops or demos. You want to teach them things that they can practice at home and that do not require constant classes.
Fighting with strangers compared to getting into a grapple with one of your friends. With a stranger the intentions are not always clear so you must be ready to go to the extreme. When you get into a grapple with a friend you most likely want to use techniques that won’t cause any or very minimal damage.
Exercise
The exercises are intended to provoke your thinking process. Look at all the answers, try to comment from the following angles.
What was good about your answer? Could you approach it from a different angle that would add to it. Can you see personalities behind each of the answers?